And Brodie groped James. That left just me, the man and another woman. (That'll do me nicely! "I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person'"
SA you have got it- it is more the "what's behind it" than what happened. View related questions:
If it were my husband, I would be upset too, because that would be so out of character for the man I know. "then the cheeky ugger only went and bloody kissed me, didn't he! I'm taking it day by day. That's a long time for kissing. I'm 5 years married to my best friend. She has just sent a private message to him on FB. / Houston, turns out I/you/I+You can't have kids the natural way after all, which is no-one's fault; let's try IVF / adopt / foster / console ourselves with the fact we'll always have each other, and the babies of people we know to borrow, and the freedom and greater financial means to please ourselves. Later, I spoke to my fianc and he told me he loved me and was sorry. SOULMATE (moderator), is this seriously your job? He is my workmate also. Its hard to know what to say, especially if youre fuzzy about what happened. You want me to go on a comma and replace her. And what Simone Bienne said on the love line. 8=) )
Because you feel guilt and awful, that is already a potential secret wall that will build up between you and the one person in the world with whom you want to be a true closest friend. reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2006): A
His imagination could go haywire over that one. female
I see this as two issues. Oh no worries soulmate, yes we do miss you We'll talk tomorrow. Period. She may mean it now, but maybe next week she wont, but you cannot rely on it..Is it a pattern of distrust? I merely stated from the above that lips are a part of foreplay. So you went and MARRIED someone who was your best FRIEND, not your already Bam!, Pow!, "oh my god there is a god!" Do you think it's better to alleviate your guilt by hurting someone you loved or better to just deal with it on your own? Alcohol was a factor, but all it did was bring to the surface the feelings that were already there. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do something like that again. "I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses."
2023 FemaleFirst Ltd. all rights reserved. I guess it's the nature of the topic - emotive yet one of those Grey areas. Kissed another man four years ago and NOW feeling guilty. I wouldn't want him around the person. But you can control whether you nurture the crush or acknowledge it and move on. If he forgave you, then it sounds like he accepted that it was a mistake, that you won't do it again and has moved on. We were going through an awkward time in the relationship and I was craving the attention and simplicity of this guy. Since he felt there was an attraction with you two. "and even though he said he immediately pulled away"
Sentiment accepted, though. I think it is a better idea for both of you good luck.do share progress. Where were you hiding it - up your sleeve? The way it happened-not so good! Anyway, I just thought I'd mention it out of respect for that other time with that girl and to show you that, despite I'm not as quick thinking as you, especially when I'm blotto, I can still handle myself in these situations [grin]." Damn, my husband is such a good person and we were together for almost 7 years now. You even said it indirectly in your story, when said you decided to get drunk. Just my opinion. Allow me show you for future ref what someone who hates feeling guilty looks like:
Any advice guys? Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. You don't have control over these things. Thank you soulmate,but I'm getting over those issues. Please help me. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk My Girlfriend Kissed Another Guy whilst Black-Out Drunk. Be the adult here. 3. reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): A
You'll have to accept it, face up to it, and put it behind you. And then continued behaving like friends as if the mere certificate would do the work and promotion parts for you (or, alternatively, continued accepting the fact that ONE friend couldn't quite dare up his friendship ante to where you felt sated in the affection and attention worthy of marriage department)
If he is like me, its a choice. For the last few years we have been trying for a baby and are currently going through tests to try find out why it's not happening. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A
Knowing what you value will help you build the most meaningful life possible. Should I ask him for gas money? Here are the frightening ways to know that he gave another girl a kiss ; 1. A certain someone might read it.
He screamed and raged and then left to the lake and sent me a text saying he cannot trust someone who would make an unwise decision like that. Can you tthan please explain this? I believe that its a good thing to fess up when kissing someone you care about when you drank too much could threaten your existing relationship. If he wants to keep her as a "friend", complete access is a must. I was dumped.so why do *I* feel guilty? Kissed someone on vakation while drunk, cheating or not? I say tell him. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls videowere all shocked at how gentle and non-aggressive female kissers were, in comparison to guys. Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back. This recently happened to me. Something like that changes almost everything in a marriage. It sounds like you are projecting your own fears onto him. I was very drunk. If you kissed someone while you were drunk then perhaps you are worried about doing it again. My SO and I had been dating two years. However, if you kissed someone whom you liked or had a crush on while you were drunk, my opinion is that you cheated. Again - your choice. Lol
I'm not going to let that or any insulting aspersions, subtle or otherwise, put me off. Hence - two aims for the price of one act: psychological fertility treatment + attention and affection. I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. .Houston, you and I have now strengthened our bond (whereby attention and affection follow) by together having conquered a potential crisis which can now longer be called a problem rather than a PAST godsend of a dual warning (not enough attention/affection worthy of marriage) merely in problematic clothing. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. Just my thoughts having been a victim of cheating. Do you want to end you marriage? I am biased and do hold strong views because my XH cheated. Well as far as my experience with sex,I would definitely say I'm not an expert. And he grabbed my waist!. Guilt protects our relationships. Okay. Please tell me I will stop feeling like this. Years after my divorce the one thing that still makes me really angry is that my XH should have ended the marriage as thats what he wanted. reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2006): A
he said if i started making out with another girl, hed be into it, but if i started getting carried away and disappearing with I came home and we resolved it and ever since everything has been fine. drunk, kissing. FoxieLadie is
Keep it to yourself. I think its interesting that you put in the innocent and the guilty kiss. I agree with Vale that the best thing you can do is talk to Cintia about what happened and tell her that seeing her kissing Mercy upset you. Dont tell me that you and ______ (the girl who was staying at our house for the weekend) are lesbians? The planet won't stop revolving around the Sun if you don't tell him. he said the situations arent at all the same bc he doesnt feel turned on by me kissing another guy the way i do from a male on male kiss. I'm dating this guy and have been for about 2 months. I don't know if he wants to still be friends with her on FB or not. I like him so so much and I know I was just being drunk and ****. And as for our original subject, who knows maybe she told him. However, before you choose option 3, you need to talk to the person you kissed when you are sober again and make sure that the other person has strong feelings for you, too. Way to make someone who, already understands and feels terrible guilt for what they've done, feel chronically worse. I was drunk but that is no excuse. I'm not married nor have I ever been married. That's a lot to take in. California coastal beeches will leave you saying -America not too shabby.. Can't take anything from South of France-doesn't everybody go there? Can Humans Detect Text by AI Chatbot GPT? We use cookies on our site to remember your preferences, monitor site traffic and offer personalised ads. You mentioned foreplay as being the main gate. However, the fact that you kissed another guy can act as a trigger for him to think negatively of you. I guess kissing another when married, with or without the other knowing about it is a sore subject. I didnt tell him. I was surprised by his reaction, but I shook my head and said it was nothing like that. My opinion, fwiw, is that what you did was not that bad. This thread has expired - why not start your own? If you we're my girlfriend and it was years ago and never happened again I would not want to know.
After all, if you're still berating yourself for what you did, it won't matter whether or not your partner has totally forgiven you. Guess what his response was? A relationship with a man is supposed to be specifically platonic, says YouTuber David Godinez, while filmmaker James Rath says that men are told not to be physically intimate. That was crazy' and other awkward things. This one by far has lasted the longest. There was a line that was crossed when they kissed, he should no longer have her as a Facebook friend, or any other communication with her. Your guilt is your punishment. What should I do.
If your husband *did* get wind of it thus realised you'd kept it secret from him - despite he told YOU when someone made a pass at HIM - he'd then have A NUMBER of major beefs with you:
There is more going on. Updated January 27, 2023 by ReGain Editorial Team. I read or heard somewhere that the only good thing that comes of guilt is to prevent you from doing it again. [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship;
Some song came on and it was a soppy song and we were both singing along. You came to your sences and stopped this from going any farther. I'm going to be the best wife I can be going forward. Yes, that's what I was going to advise - that you two continue any discussion on LG's own thread. Look at your first kiss after divorce as a new beginning, a new chapter. So - no - if I feel like entertaining myself, I only have to think of my favourite joke about, what do you call a dinosaur with only one eye? (although, I'm not sure how this counts as a debate if you and I are in total agreement, lol). Sometimes it doesnt help to tell your partner everything. reader, Angel-lee+, writes (25 October 2005): A
i think OP is using 'kiss' to mean 'more than kiss', but whatever, it was 4 years ago in a rough patch.. everyone here is wrong. But now he has begun university and I trust him with everything but I keep thinking of what I did. I didnt want to cheat on him and I made up my mind it wouldnt happen again.
I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful.